Hi- so I’m kind of confused.. is it only considered an orgasm when you cum? What is is considered when you get hot and your body tenses? When my boyfriend and I are doing stuff we get disappointed when I don’t cum, but my body always tenses up, so is that a good thing or a sign of failure that I didn’t cum? (I’m a 16 year old girl who doesn’t have much intelligence on this stuff:))

Hi Darling,
Getting hot and your body tensing are definitely signs you’ve had an orgam. If by “cum” you’re talking about female ejaculation, then don’t expect it to happen unless you’re extremely aroused and your boyfriend has stimulated you the right way (which is pretty specific) – a female orgam is quite discreet but you definitely feel it when you’ve had one.  And don’t feel silly for asking this, it’s okay, that’s what I’m here for. ♥