Hey! So I have a small question to ask. I’m meeting an older guy tomorrow and I think we may end up getting sexual. Thing is we are really good friends. Can sex ruin a friendship? Or can you have Sex without it being romantic with a friend without it being weird? Idk I’ve had friends with benefits before and I’ve never got feelings for them, I’m just worried about making this guy feel like he had to like me or not talk to me again if we have sex.. Thank you so much! You’re amazing X

Hi Darling,
Having sex with a friend can be tricky when you lack communication. You need to talk about it a lot to make sure everything’s clear on both sides and everyone is willing to take that road without it being awkward afterwards. Just be honest with that guy, don’t be afraid to be brutal so there’s no misunderstanding and let him know you’re into casual sex with friends and nothing else. A friendship is ruined the second feelings get involved and the other one is crushing them without taking notice. I’ve been through some rough patches on that specific subject and it’s taken me hours and hours of talking and opening my heart to save my most precious friendship so I absolutely know where you stand and what you don’t want to go through (trust me, you do not want to go there) – be 100% honest before you have sex with him and make sure he’s okay. If he still shows some feelings afterwards, you’ve done nothing wrong as you were honest in the first place. He cannot blame you. x